Her stance on clothing and perceptions of sexuality and objectification in the music industry. The fact that people continue to try to use her wardrobe choices—ones she CLEARLY stated are not about the politics of respectability—as some sort of faulty comparison to shame other Black women who CHOOSE to show more skin and are in control of their bodies, means that people really are willfully ignorant and are not engaging her words (and I know they aren’t; they think her music has no erotic power, for example) nor the words of the Black women that they choose to shame. By not engaging her actual message and using her as an object to shame other Black women, they objectify her and them.
This is misogynoir. It’s not what she’s about. It’s other people’s projection onto Black women through a very Patriarchal and White Gaze. Every time they use the word “classy” for her and immediately degrade another Black woman they juxtapose, they seek to degrade all Black women by denying our choices and agency and demanding we prove “acceptable” in the patriarchal gaze made of binaries, especially the cishet Black male gaze, for Black women. It’s tired.
That’s very sweet. Thank you so much.
i hope one day someone loves you as much as you love your favourite fictional character